9007 harness is right.
The red wire on your harness you're holding up goes to the relay so that when the low beams are on the ballasts are receiving power. When high beam goes on, relay turns off and power goes to your high beams.
Here is what my harness looked like. Forget about colour of the wire in my harness, the red wire coming off the blue plug on my harness goes to the high beam bulb, which should be your blue wire. My pins are correct in the socket, just the wire colours are opposite.
Also, forget about the top harness, that was for my hid fogs.
So you can see, coming out of the relay on mine is 1 plug for each ballast, 1 fused 12v wire, 1 ground wire, and the blue plug with the high beam bulb socket.