So i just got a phone call from my girlfriends mom, shes all mad and yelling and she is accusing me of smoking pot. Well the story is, my girlfriend got home late from a friends house higher than crap and so her mom thinks i smoke pot to and is calling me accusing me and saying i have everything to do with it, idk what to do, ive never touched that crap in my life, i refuse to, i dont even like dating someone who smokes pot, but i love her to much, been with her for about 3 years, so now her mom is pissed at me and says i cant come see her for atleast a week, and says i cant even talk to her, thats BS, i should atleast be able to talk to her. Her mom is bipolar i swear, she snapped one second and is a major *dog* and then the next minute shes cool and calm, i understand shes mad about catching her smoking pot but still to take it out on me and blame me? what do i do! sorry for my rant but i just needed to vent!

Mom needs to hit the pot to calm down.

x2 steve, how old is her mother, because i bet her mother has tryed before she just wont admit it

55.

Just wait a couple days and do a surprise visit and talk to the mom, by that time she would have calm down. Don't try to talk to her now because when a women is mad its very difficult to get a point across.

Tell her you'll take a drug test, if she pays for it!
My pops is 62, he smokes the dope occassionaly, so do his buddies.

thats lol right there

I agree with Dre, wait a couple of days, cool down time always seems to help at least a little bit

Yah, offering to take a drug test is pretty foolproof.
Just sit down with the mom and tell her what you told us man.
Honesty is usually the best approach.

walk in there, tokin' a blunt and ask her if she wants a hit. Or pack her a nice big bowl and tell her it will improve her quality of life!!

I won't really get into the discussion of 'weed: good or bad?' but like was mentioned before give it a day or two, call her and ask her if you could come over and talk to her about the situation and explain your side of the story. Be mature, this will show her mother that you care for the girl and that you are not just another whiny teenager in lust who wants to get his own way.

Take a drug test? Make her go with, this is a very easy solution.

Take a drug test, walk it over there, shove it in her face.

And then dump the girl for being a pot head.

/\ and here is why

FIRST Tell her what her mom said (if she doesnt know)

Usually the girl will miss you enough to cop up to it being her fault and the mom should listen if not:

Tell the mother you will take a drug test whenever she wants to prove you aren't a druggy.

If at any point she gets emotional or starts to hurt or cry or w.e her mom will become motherly and start accepting pretty much anything. Bi polar or not it will work. Usually with women for some reason sadness over comes alot.

(Better be 100% sure she deff wants you more on this one) If she really cares about you tell her your breaking up with her if she keeps smoking. IF she does care she will either:

1.) Lie and say she will stop
2.) Cry get emotional and say she needs you more then pot.

Usually 2 happens if she is really attached.

If you are wrong:
1.) Throw you to the curb

Happened with me when I dropped the girl off completely wasted haha.

Her mom blamed me even though I don't get plastered Ill drink but not to that extent. Said I couldn't see her or w.e. Then girl broke down admitted it was her fault and the mom listened )idk she said the whole parent divorce makes her do that stuff) Then the mom tried to apologize to me and I told them both I wanted nothing more to do with that drama.


Rule #1 Don't get attached.

her mom is effing psyco. no resoning with her trust me. she called the cops on me and they came to my work today looking to search my car. i let them because i had nothing to worry about, but owell, things should work out sooner or later. otherwise idk what ill do, i love her to much to just drop her over this.

She called the cops? Its crazy! I'm more supprised the cops even came out over that.

She told them i had alot of pot in my car.

Ive dealt with psycho moms, sisters, and even the girl being psycho herself out of nowhere. It never ends well. Even if this ends up working out something else will happen that will put you in a bad spot. There will only be more drama with her. Ive been in your shoes bro Ive dealt with a good amount of bs for a girl and I asked myself is it worth it?

I don't mean to sound like the jerk but you need to ask yourself the same question honestly is she worth it?

3 years says shes worth it.

Trust me you'd be surprised...

Alright well all I can say is good luck and I hope it works out. If the mom calms down go to her house and ask the mom if you can have a talk. Sit down with her explain the whole situation. Show her how much you care about her daughter. Show her you will protect her and stuff. Pretty much re assure her that you aren't going to blank her daughter over and that you are a good influence. That is if she listens.

Watch your back because I don't think you realize just how bad it can get.

rofl that's nothing resembling probable cause. I hate cops. No way would they have searched my car. Get a warrant, then we'll talk.

Sound like she (your girlfriend) trying make your mom blame at you to avoid her problem. Now her mom is blame at you for no reason so she got away easy I think.

Sound like she is not true girlfriend for you. She told her mom that you have pot on your car.

3 years? That's not really long relationship but I know 3 years is long time. Me and my ex-gf have been dating for 6 years. I dump her because some few reason.

You said you hate pot but my question why she is smoking the pot?

Well good luck for deal some few problems. I'm sure it will go away few days later.

She wouldn't give ya a reach around? some girls these days...no respect!

Because it improves your quality of life! haha. Many ppl have many different reasons,. I look at it as a less socially accepted version of alcohol, condone it or not, ppl still do it.

You live in Canada need I say more?

What does that mean? What's wrong with Canada?

I never said there was anything wrong with Canada I just meant its a different situation when you don't have to worry about getting nailed for it.

"Marijuana advocates across Canada are celebrating a May 16 Ontario court decision, which effectively legalized possession in Canada's largest province.
On Friday, May 16, Ontario Superior Court Justice Steven Rogin upheld the lower court ruling of Justice Philips, concerning a case of pot possession in Ontario."

I know there are court battle still going on but you get the point

Hmm, where did you get that info? I'd like to read the whole thing because as far as I know it is illegal to possess marijuana unless you have a medical condition and have been prescribed medicinal marijuana.

Just searched, that was back in 2003. I will have to look into that, it is interesting because everyone I speak to is also under the impression that it is illegal to possess any amount of marijuana.

Ive heard both sides of it but no one seems to know lol. I just said the you in canada thing as a sarcastic joke. I can't believe you never knew about the legal vs illegal thing up there lol.

Mike, how could you say that ABOOOT us? lol.

Oh plz idk how you guys can take an economic crisis seriously. "The loony is down today". lmao jk

And how is the whole Quebec trying to separate from Canada and still have the same money thing going?

Those who know where that is from lol

Your young.

I'd drop her.

Why? After three years you say you love her. Well apearantly she doesn't love you. You say you don't care for pot smokers she should already be aware of that and if she does and she did it anyways means she doesn't have the same feeling for you. Sounds like she's letting you take the blame for her actions. I wouldn't want to be involved in that kind of relationship. For another thing at this point I don't think her mother will ever "trust"/"respect" you. If that's not happening there will always be friction between you and your girl.

Like I said you are young and there are much better fish in the sea.

Nailed it

i beg to differ, i was with the ex around that now hell i almost couldnt be happier, i got so much going for me now your young, still wait until you get settled a little someplace or something until you make the big search, and if your gf is trying to pawn this on you i would toss that to the curb in a heartbeat

as the mother calling the cops to search your car, i would think the cops would have better things to do ...


what i would do

take a piss test
get your results
sit down with mother and daughter
shove results in the face of the mother
and then tell the daugher off because she has a crazy mother .... there is so many ways that you can turn this to your favor but do as you want

Her mom appologized to me tonight for calling the cops on me, and some of you have it confused, my girlfriend never mentioned me to her mom about pot, yes i knew she did it every once in a while, ive been working on getting her to quit, but yeah her mom appologized and said she had no right to call the cops on me and suspect anything. so all that should be settled.

In the past 4 years, Ema has thrown me to the curb, broken and crying, 9 times for every single new guy that has shown up in her life.

And I had taken her back every single time.

Well, since this last time, and whith the help of friends who truely care about me, I've finally moved on from that physically and emotionally abusive relationship.

However, those 4 years have left some serious scarring on my mind and my body and I, after being alone again for nearly 4 months, am in a very bad spot.


You need to take some steps back and take a good hard look at where your relationship is, whether you want to or not, and see if she's really worth it.

Because I can tell you, after 4 years of pain, suffering, and giving 110% effort to somebody who has NEVER returned it, it -was- -not- -worth- -it-.

Ever hear stories of abused wives thinking they get beat because they weren't good enough or fast enough for their husband?

I'm telling you right now, it's true, it honest to God truely happens to people and it can happen to guys too.


Is she worth it?

I'm just going to chill out for a while and let things flow and see where they go, if things turn ugly, ill end it before it gets bad.

smoke some weed boosten...it will help...sit in your garage with a couple buddys, smoke some weed and talk about it lol. Stuff gets deep when your high..then see what you think about her..

my 2 cents

Nah don't get high. Don't get drunk. Don't do stupid s**t. Because the second she calls you and you talk everything bad about her will disappear. You lose all bad feelings and think its worth it. You'll start to think I "Love" her. And you know what you probably do. I respect that for what its worth. But that word has no meaning. Because most guys think of girls as weak or needy, while this may be true for the most part there are the girls who mess with your head. You think she cares. You think she really needs you but its all a ploy, a lie, an act. You learn though. Whether it be from previous mistakes or those ongoing. You stop trusting people, you grow a fake personality to fight against the lies and the drama. You start to change your views on things. Suddenly playing girls off doesn't seem bad or time consuming. It becomes an art. And as you go through them you start to be able to pick certain ones off. You don't see her as the hot blonde. You see her as the emotionally distant over compensating needy girl who hides behind her looks. Finding the one girl becomes stupid. You lose touch with your nice guy self and become that guy. Then you realize why. It was that one girl who messed with you way back when and you see that she made you what you are. Ha and you laugh because even after shes been out of your life for years she still affected you enough to make you change.

My 2 Cents

I'm not sure who I agree with more. lonezergling or Herc.

And I like how people say to get high, it'll make things ok. lol Whatever.

Anyway, I agree when they say she's not worth it.

Your not going to change her.

That's the number one mistake in every relationship. One thinks they can change the other into what they want. Well it doesn't work. Like I said you say you've been together for three+ years now. I'm pretty sure she knows where you stand when it comes to the wacky. And judging by her actions she could care less how you feel.

The mom thing has me worried. Just cause she appoligized this time doesn't change who she is and how she'll react to anything.

Just move on.

Yes it'll be tough for a while but things will get better and there are betters gals out there.

Dude, We gotta talk again bro.
My ex called the other day! LOL
Returned the call a few days later. She hasn't called back. LMAO!
Member my 3 years, I tried hard to get you over this chick. One day you'll realize it, I just hope its not too late when that day comes.

If you've talked to her and she refuses to stop doing drugs I would simply get rid of her. Like others have said, you cannot change someone and that is the single biggest mistake of them all.

If you love something, set it free

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holy crap palsut lol,


my ex txt me the other day her and i txt for a while but she was wanting my help to find her a new car lol

I know it was long story. I guess I learned my lesson that high school sweetheart don't work out very well. Oh well that's part of life. I'm glad we never have children or marry her.

3 weeks ago, she own base 2002 Nissan Sentra that she was give by her mom after I took Pontiac G6 away from her. She asked my advice for how to make car appearance since she saw my summer car project work. She want SE-R. I told her I dunno how to switch base model to SE-R model. She ask me can I take my car to you for wash and wax it for me someday? She know I'm very good skill with cleaning and wax stuffs. She will give me a tip. I told her I guess that's fine with me. I feel weird to wash my ex-gf car someday when spring or summer is coming soon.

lol I'm trying to explain as clean story as I can. I checked to make sure no bad words. If AustinGTP or Hercman is okay with that then I will leave it alone. If they don't accept that then let me know so I can edit it out. I'm not trying to get banned. I'm just telling the whole story between me and my ex-gf. I thought it was funny story.

wow not cool AustinGTP.

you could just delete last part only which I ask you that I would edit it out if you want to but delete whole story that I share everyone for our relationship to them that we are too young totally clean story? :rolleyes:

Shouldn't have to wait, shouldn't have typed it or should of deleted it yourself.
This car forum, not a dating forum.

I'm just give him a example that young relationship don't work out for OP who don't know what to do on this title. I'm giving him a example of my "young" relationship don't work out. I mean members help each other. This is OFF-TOPIC thread.

It would be nice if he just edit it out last part for payback to her. It is only like few paragraph. The whole story is like letter which it is totally clean. I have no idea why he delete it all of them. :rolleyes:

*edit* thank to someone save that story message. pm me if you are interesting my relationship story which of course last "payback" part is out.

story was interesting palsut, but i dont think this is going to happen between me and my girlfriend. thanks for the support guys but i think everything is going to work out just fine, things have been going smooth all week, lets just hope they stay that way, especially friday so my birthday doesnt get ruined...

No problem. I thought she is one of them but you could never know if your girlfriend change her way like mine did. Hopefully, your girlfriend should be same and love you.

lol it was an epic story, but can't say I disagree with the delete.

qft. I've never laughed so hard at something posted on here before. I had to show my friends.

lol I can't believe you show my story to your friends.

I missed this story. Can you PM it to me? I wasn't really interested before, but if everyone thinks its funny, it could lighten my day a bit.

Edit: Just read it, that is freakin hilarious.

PM me to palsut!!!!
i need a laugh lol

you got the x-rated stuff too?

dude, your PM is full again, I was going to send you the funny part of it.

Yeah man, I got all of it. I think I've decided that I'm going to leave it full. lol. I'll delete stuff again. I constantly get questions.

ok, no problem, I don't blame ya. I just delete my PM's as I get them lol.

Randal i didnt even get the X rated stuff! PM it to me! lol

It is not his story. It is mine! Sound like he is trying steal my story or something

Sorry I didn't send you last part because I thought private message don't allow swear and x rated stuff. Now I know pm can allow whatever we want to say.

Randall just sent it to me too, omg ive never laughed at something on a forum so hard before in my life. wow.

lol I'm glad you like it. Maybe if I'm 80 years old if I'm alive then I will tell my story to my future grandchildren

Palsut, was your ex g/f also deaf? just curious.

and i'm not trying to steal your story lol.

lol just kidding about "steal my story" :p

Yes, she is deaf. She was born as hearing person. 2 weeks later, she got very sick and doctor gave her a wrong pill that cause her deaf. She was really upset about that when she is getting older enough to know. She wish she is a hearing person so her life will be easy than deaf.

I have known her since 1996. We went to same deaf school.

She was really nice lady until few years ago went crap. She was my 1st sweetheart. Oh well thing happen.

It will be suck for her now. She is 3 month preg. It was accident by her boyfriend who can't hold it. 3 months preg + money problem + 7 months of relationship with her new boyfriend + never told her new boyfriend about "her affair with me for "last part of story lol" = probably fail.

When I was cleaning my apt 2 months ago. I found her stuffs. I told her that I will drive and drop your stuff at your apt. She says NO NO!!! I don't want you see my new boyfriend. I told her why? I don't have problem with him. I never meet him before. Why you don't want me see you for drop that stuff like 1 minute? She says her boyfriend don't want her hang out with old ex-bf. I just like ahh I see fine just see me my apt then. I think she is worry if I tell him about what happened between of us.